The Breakthrough
I have spent my life trying to figure out what is wrong with me, and for most of my life I framed it (consciously and unconsciously) in those terms. Now, I know that the question itself was part of the…
I Want to Know What I Hate and Why
I hate institutionalized schooling. I hate the profession of teaching. Those thoughts and feelings are there in me for a reason, so I’ve been figuring out why, and I’ve had plenty of opportunity to do so, what with almost daily…
You and Me and a Tree
Maybe it’s social media; maybe it has been around longer than that, but we have a tendency to forget that when someone shares something, it’s coming from them, not from one of us, who’s the receiver, not the creator. So…
Who Were You Created To Be?
Psychosynthesis, like other forms of soul work, involves finding our way back to the True Self. Roberto Assagioli’s “egg diagram” is a model of the individual, and in it, there are two dots that represent the True Self (I like…
Where Is She?
Container: that word keeps showing up in my life. This flowerpot contains a pretty, pink-leaved plant my grandson gave me for my birthday, and it contains me. I was wearing a pink shirt the day I took the shot, and…
Bad Questions
“What do you want to be when you grow up?” I hate that question and believe it should never be asked, especially since there is only one appropriate answer: “my True Self”. “What do you want to do when you…
A Season of Gift Giving
It’s ironic and perhaps tragic that a former friend who looked forward to getting old never got the chance. After her death from breast cancer in her late thirties, her husband called to let me know. She and I had…
No Authority
Nobody is coming to save you. The first time I laid eyes on that message, we were in the thick of the COVID lies, and I was working hard to find someone to save us all, grasping at any and…
I Have Stopped
Most of us don’t have the bandwidth* to lower our defenses and take a risk on the emotional needs of others, and it seems to me that 99 percent of the strife in this world can be traced back to…
Put It into Words
I guess you could say that making the unconscious conscious has become something of a goal of mine, so I am grateful for the humans, especially women, who beautifully explain to me myself and others in my life. When the…
Where We Belong
I am disappointed in you is the message I tried my entire life to avoid, and it had companions that showed up regularly to keep me on my toes: It’s never okay to be yourself and People like us don’t…
Do You Know How to Be Yourself?
In the introduction to Free from Lies, Alice Miller describes a survey she commissioned in 2002 that asked 100 mothers at what age they thought “they might begin impressing the necessity of good behavior on their children by giving them…
